1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the
last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the
husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband
to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi
wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and
always loved the sweetest smells.
2. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu
alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved.
Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names
that hurt their feelings.
3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our
daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day -
which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something
to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she
does and focus on that.
4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not
comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa
sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives -
radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have
mastered.
5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often.
Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah.
Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those
Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his
wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.
6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again!
Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the
home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only
acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the
soup. Don't let that be; thank her!
7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that
made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize
what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game,
ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.
8. Don't be little her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may
look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu
alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah -
radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a
slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the
camel.
9. Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah
- sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu
'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like
that?
10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu
alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families
the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the
best!
In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to
make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!
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